Some are old, some are new, some are blue (if they’re smurfs or avatars). I’m talking about friends here, folks.
We have old friends, and we have new friends. Friends that we’ve known for years with an established friendship. A friendship filled with memories, disagreements, embarrassing stories, and moments only a few of you know about. Moments that the world will never hear of (hood rat shit with ya friends is what i’m getting at). Friendship is a bond with an unspoken vow of promising to be there for each other. To be there for each other’s highs, and for the lows. Just knowing that they’re the person you can call at 2 a.m. when you realize you may be at the golden gates of an introductory mid-youth crisis. Or simply just being there when you both agreeably want nothing more than to melt into the couch and not exchange a single set of words except for “play the next episode“.
Then we have our new pals. It’s fresh, it’s new, it’s exciting, and it’s a learning experience. These new pals should be integrated with these old pals. I think the formula for this goes something like E = mc 2 (but I’m no Einstein).
To the people out there who are unnecessarily possessive about their friends-please, just do less. You worry about mixing friends who are strangers to one another in fear of them becoming closer to each other, than they are to you. You need to drop it, drop it like a bad habit. It’s similar to the child whose first muttered word was “mine”. Mine, mine, mine. No- everything is not yours, yours, yours. (Side note- I had a guy friend ask me if this really happens, and in girl world, it weirdly does.)
~Amazing~ things happen when you mix your old friends, and your new friends.
You’re a wizard, a wizard of conjuring this new energy of feel good vibes from having the people closest to you together in one room. Introducing these humans who are all equally amazing in their own, unique ways to each other. You are actively creating new bonds for other people. This is the stuff I feed off of. Bringing lives together, unifying these spirits, and creating something greater. You could be introducing future best-friends to each other. Introducing someone to a person they didn’t even know they needed or wanted in their lives.
There are certain friends that awaken your soul in a way. Who give you pep talks about not feeling bad about a particular event or experience that you’re beating yourself up about. Now, imagine introducing this kind of friend to another person in your life who really needed someone like that. Someone with an art of word play, who by the end of the conversation will have you nodding your head saying “hell yeah, you are so right.”
It really is such an incredible feeling when you look around and realize the intoxicating laughter that’s flooding your ears is coming from the people you brought together. The articulate conversations formulating in your living room between strangers that you brought together. The exchange of phone numbers and tastes in music are all happening because you brought these people together. It’s magical , dammit. Soak it all in, you’re the man, you’re the matchmaker of friendships, you’re the guru of good times. Own it.
So.. as Biggie Smalls once said, “tell your friends, to get with my friends, and WE CAN BE FRIENDS. “